"…school
campuses will remain physically closed for the remainder of the year."
That one sentence from my son's school yesterday brought a wide range of conflicting emotions to my household.
Parents: dread,
fear, stress
Kids: hope, freedom,
loneliness
The first sign of
how the coronavirus adversely affected my son was when he, unbeknownst to his
parents, invited his friend over to play Xbox. His friend said his father
wasn't letting him go anywhere.
These last three
weeks with the whole family at home have been good. And I wondered, why have
there been fewer arguments, less stress, than when the four of us have been
home together in the past.
One word comes to
mind: Homework
The second is: Xbox
I knew homework was a source of stress in our lives, but never truly appreciated how good life could be without it. Now not only will parents have to help kids manage their homework, but also manage their classwork. The question is no longer
are you smarter than a fifth-grader, it is are you smarter than a tenth-grade
math teacher?
Initially, my son's
face lit up when he heard he no longer had to go to school. I knew he was
thinking more Xbox time and his new game was coming out April 2. Then I
reminded him about the one online course he took last semester and how tough it
was for him to self motivate himself to complete the assignments on time. The
smile disappeared.
Fortunately, my
oldest son is already out of high school, so we only have to help my youngest
son complete his work. Hopefully my oldest son will jump in and help as well.
But it is my oldest
son that is missing school the most. By June, he was set to finish the two
trade schools he was enrolled in, pursue
his career, and move on with his life. Unfortunately, both schools are closed. They
require a certain number of hands-on training hours to complete the programs.
If the schools open May 5 as scheduled, he could finish by August. But there's
a very real chance that they may not reopen until the Fall. He told me a week
ago, "Dad, I really miss school." Those were words that I had never
heard him say.
He has applied for
grocery store jobs but with no luck. Since we claim him as a dependent he
cannot receive the stimulus check even though he worked last
year and paid taxes.
The best thing for
both of my sons has been the Xbox. Not only as a break from reality, but as a
social tool. I hear both boys talking, laughing, and arguing with their buddies
and each other as they play together online.
I hear them talk about school, dating, and politics.
The best decision I
made at Christmas was to buy a second Xbox to prevent sharing conflicts.
Microsoft's new
marketing angle should be: "Beat self-isolation - connect with Xbox!
Prevent conflicts, buy one for each family member."
However, the Xbox
can't hide the fact that homework is coming, 6.6 million people went on
unemployment last week, and schools are closed.
As parents we just
have to continue doing what we have been doing all along, prepare, help, and
educate. Plus, it wouldn't hurt if we got some Xbox play time in their along with their kids.
Take care everyone.
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